My sister is living in her purpose and has become a photographer. Today Justin will have a photo shoot with her capturing all of emotions he goes through throughout the day. I didn’t tell him about until Just now and boy oh boy I can feel the anxieties flowing.

He’s like:

What is it for?

What do I have to do?

Is this for the blog?

What emotions should I do?

I’m sure in his mind he’s really like, you pulled me out of Band practice for this! When I told him it was for a project, he said okay. But I can still feel his anxiety. I’m very mindful of what I say and how I say things to him. I don’t dismiss my emotions because I’m entitled to feel the way I do they same way I allow him to express them.

On another note. Wish us Luck! Today will be a great day because I Believe it will be. 😊

Autism

Photo Shoot Project

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In life we get confused by the choices we must make. Don’t allow for those choices to linger to long. The more they linger the more you become indecisive.

At times I can become very indecisive with decisions I must make. I went through this process.

1 I’m always weighing my options picking between only two when there is more options available. I pick the two most likely options.

2 Checking with others to see what they think.

3 Listing the pros and cons

4 Visualize both options

5. Pick the option that feels rights.

This was always my process when I was confused about a decision I needed to make. I became dependent on others to help me rationalize my thinking. Then I began to over think because what if the lessor options are the better choices 🤔. Then listening the pros and cons 😳! 🤦🏽‍♀️ Made it even more difficult.

I now go straight to number 4 and 5. I visualize my options and I go what feels right. Some times when deciding things, it’s just using your intuition. Go with what feels right. When you go with what feels right you always pick the right option.

Keena's Moments, Reflections

Confusion

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So I forgot to post my update and my progress. Things are going great. I think it takes 21 Days to really get your mind prepared and ready for the changes you will make in your life. The first few days I’ll admit was a rough start and as you guys know I was ready to start again. But I didn’t and I’m glad I didn’t.

I think if I had restarted I would have restarted over and over again, because I would have felt like I was doing it wrong or I wasn’t giving my all. When in reality I was. I needed to just go with the flow of things.

In the 21 days I lost 11 pounds. I gained motivation. I have more energy. I feel a lot better despite getting sick a bit. I’m even more determined more now than before.

I’ve also started meditating more as I wanted to. I’m back to reading and listening to my positive talks again. I’m changing my thinking and the people I allow to consume my space and energy.

So I decided to continue with 21 days and now go into the 90 days to make it a lifestyle.

Today is day 25 of 90. I’m so ready for the road ahead.

Lifestyle Change * Thinking Change* Professional and Meditation Practice Change*

Surroundings Change* Physical Change*

Changing what needs to be Changed* 😊

Keena's Moments

Day 21 of 21

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Every day I listen to a positive podcast to get my through my day and today’s message is: ” “Treat people the way you want to be treated”

Kindness is the key 🔑 I know it’s hard with the climate of the world being so negative and on edge at the moment. We will get through this as we always do.

Have a wonderful Friday!

Keena's Moments, Reflections

Kindness

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Today was a day of little moments that made me push through the day to get a lesson I know I needed to learn once in that moment. I was tired due to not feeling so well, so I was debating on canceling my sessions today with my clients but something told me not to.

Well I’m glad I didn’t give into my feelings of tiredness because I learned a lesson during one of my sessions with my client. We’re going through transition because he no longer needs me. He’s doing well and I’m proud of his progress. So we’re doing goodbye letters for one another and I got asked what did I learn from our time together. I had to really think for a moment because he had walls that was so hard to break through but I got through them. I learned patience on a completely different level, how to have more compassion than I have now, and my own personal strengths.

As I therapist I don’t care how experienced you are in the back of your mind you always wonder if you have the capability to truly Help someone mentally. I learn many things about myself through the various experiences with my clients. I’m so happy and proud with my clients when they make connections that they feel they will never make. I truly love what I do.

Keena's Moments

Little Moments

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It has taken me years to love who I truly am and I’m still learning to love all aspect of me. Including the aspects I’m still struggling to change like my weight but I’m getting there. In a few days I will share my 21 Days of 21 Days. I’ve made great progress and I’m continuing on my journey.

It takes a lot to love every part of you. We allow others to get in our heads to change our view of ourselves, we allow our past to dictate who we think we are or suppose to be, we let society define us well, we let labels classify, and the list of definitions go on.

Who are you exactly? Are you what people think you are? Or are you just a human being traveling this world of life trying to figure out what the hell you are suppose to be doing here?

Lol. It doesn’t matter what you think or what others think. It doesn’t matter the journey forward or your horrible past. All that matters is, when you’re present you love who you are in all of its entirety so that you can love others equally.

Namaste

Keena's Moments, Reflections

Love Who You Are

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We’ve been having a few rough weeks since the start of High School, The Marching Band Season, and My Work Schedule 😫.

I’m tired and Justin is very much overwhelmed. Last night Justin came to me and asked me if I think he has ADHD in addition to his Autism because he can’t seem to focus. I assured him that he does not have ADHD and that it’s not that he can’t focus it’s just that when you don’t get enough rest and have a busy schedule like his, it’s hard to think straight.

I told him to think of it like this, what if we took away Marching Band would you be able to focus more on your work. He immediately said yes. So I also had him compare his schedule this year to last year. He then realized that he doesn’t have ADHD and that he just need to learn how to manage his time better and prioritize.

Now if he did show signs of ADHD I’d be the first one to work on getting him help.

Last night was our first night getting some rest and having much quality time together that we so needed.

This week will be another crazy week but we will make the best of it.

Autism

Tired & Overwhelmed

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Autism, Lights

Take Chances

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Is Honesty the best policy? I hear they say it is. People would rather you be honest than lie. I like honesty because it allows me to learn more about myself and be aware of things. At times I may not like the approach or the delivery of the honesty but I respect it.

This past week I’ve been very honest with a lot of people in my life. It’s seems that honesty from me is not what they’re use to hearing. Well I think it had everything to do with my delivery. I really haven’t been delivering my dose of honesty nicely. It’s because I’ve been frustrated and emotionally overwhelmed. When you’re everyone’s go to listening person, everyone dumps their stories onto you forgetting that you have feelings or maybe going through your own personal dilemmas.

Not one person truly asked me if I was okay and if I needed anything in return. I have to either post something on social media or say I’m not doing so well. I don’t get the check in, they way I check in on them. Its always about their story and what they are going through. When I reach out no one truly listens. I get ignored and it’s frustrating because I give the same people my undivided attention no matter what. I’m the bad guy right now because no one is really talking to me at this moment and I’m okay with it. I feel like I need a break from everyone in my life at this moment. I need to create the balance in my life and the silence will do it.

I keep a lot in and I normally don’t express my feelings fully. I think that’s what is hindering my personal and professional growth. Expression. There’s so much that I want to say. I don’t say it and sometimes I do say but the wrongs ways. I’m learning more and more each day. It’s not that I don’t know how to communicate I think it’s the feeling I get when I do communicate that no one is listening. If the people Near me doesn’t listen. How do I get others to listen? 🤔

Something to think about. In the end honesty is always the best policy. I think it’s how you approach and speak your honesty. I apologize to those who I may have offended but please understand that I’m not your Personal therapist because it’s my profession but I am your friend. So treat me as such the way I do you.

Now that I got that off my chest. Happy Monday Everyone.

Be Honest in Your Way as Long as Your Honest with Yourself.

Keena's Moments, Reflections

Honesty

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In life everything is a give and take or some form of trade off. If there is no equal give and take, or trade off then then an unbalance occurs. When an unbalance occurs, balance seeks order. It’s seeks order not to control but so that all things are fair.

I’m feeling a little off balanced. I have been feeling this way for a few months now. I realized why this week and I’m finally starting to do something about it. I haven’t focused on myself the way I should be. I’ve been focused on being there for people emotionally and physically that I have stopped being there for myself. I cannot fault or blame them for my feelings of unbalance simply because I allow it. I allow my need for always wanting to be there for others overshadow what I need to do for myself.

My goal now is to get balanced and focus on me.

Happy Saturday!

Are you balanced?!

Keena's Moments

Balance

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