Share this:

In life we get confused by the choices we must make. Don’t allow for those choices to linger to long. The more they linger the more you become indecisive.

At times I can become very indecisive with decisions I must make. I went through this process.

1 I’m always weighing my options picking between only two when there is more options available. I pick the two most likely options.

2 Checking with others to see what they think.

3 Listing the pros and cons

4 Visualize both options

5. Pick the option that feels rights.

This was always my process when I was confused about a decision I needed to make. I became dependent on others to help me rationalize my thinking. Then I began to over think because what if the lessor options are the better choices 🤔. Then listening the pros and cons 😳! 🤦🏽‍♀️ Made it even more difficult.

I now go straight to number 4 and 5. I visualize my options and I go what feels right. Some times when deciding things, it’s just using your intuition. Go with what feels right. When you go with what feels right you always pick the right option.

Share this:

It has taken me years to love who I truly am and I’m still learning to love all aspect of me. Including the aspects I’m still struggling to change like my weight but I’m getting there. In a few days I will share my 21 Days of 21 Days. I’ve made great progress and I’m continuing on my journey.

It takes a lot to love every part of you. We allow others to get in our heads to change our view of ourselves, we allow our past to dictate who we think we are or suppose to be, we let society define us well, we let labels classify, and the list of definitions go on.

Who are you exactly? Are you what people think you are? Or are you just a human being traveling this world of life trying to figure out what the hell you are suppose to be doing here?

Lol. It doesn’t matter what you think or what others think. It doesn’t matter the journey forward or your horrible past. All that matters is, when you’re present you love who you are in all of its entirety so that you can love others equally.

Namaste

Share this:

We’ve been having a few rough weeks since the start of High School, The Marching Band Season, and My Work Schedule 😫.

I’m tired and Justin is very much overwhelmed. Last night Justin came to me and asked me if I think he has ADHD in addition to his Autism because he can’t seem to focus. I assured him that he does not have ADHD and that it’s not that he can’t focus it’s just that when you don’t get enough rest and have a busy schedule like his, it’s hard to think straight.

I told him to think of it like this, what if we took away Marching Band would you be able to focus more on your work. He immediately said yes. So I also had him compare his schedule this year to last year. He then realized that he doesn’t have ADHD and that he just need to learn how to manage his time better and prioritize.

Now if he did show signs of ADHD I’d be the first one to work on getting him help.

Last night was our first night getting some rest and having much quality time together that we so needed.

This week will be another crazy week but we will make the best of it.

Share this:

Share this:

Is Honesty the best policy? I hear they say it is. People would rather you be honest than lie. I like honesty because it allows me to learn more about myself and be aware of things. At times I may not like the approach or the delivery of the honesty but I respect it.

This past week I’ve been very honest with a lot of people in my life. It’s seems that honesty from me is not what they’re use to hearing. Well I think it had everything to do with my delivery. I really haven’t been delivering my dose of honesty nicely. It’s because I’ve been frustrated and emotionally overwhelmed. When you’re everyone’s go to listening person, everyone dumps their stories onto you forgetting that you have feelings or maybe going through your own personal dilemmas.

Not one person truly asked me if I was okay and if I needed anything in return. I have to either post something on social media or say I’m not doing so well. I don’t get the check in, they way I check in on them. Its always about their story and what they are going through. When I reach out no one truly listens. I get ignored and it’s frustrating because I give the same people my undivided attention no matter what. I’m the bad guy right now because no one is really talking to me at this moment and I’m okay with it. I feel like I need a break from everyone in my life at this moment. I need to create the balance in my life and the silence will do it.

I keep a lot in and I normally don’t express my feelings fully. I think that’s what is hindering my personal and professional growth. Expression. There’s so much that I want to say. I don’t say it and sometimes I do say but the wrongs ways. I’m learning more and more each day. It’s not that I don’t know how to communicate I think it’s the feeling I get when I do communicate that no one is listening. If the people Near me doesn’t listen. How do I get others to listen? 🤔

Something to think about. In the end honesty is always the best policy. I think it’s how you approach and speak your honesty. I apologize to those who I may have offended but please understand that I’m not your Personal therapist because it’s my profession but I am your friend. So treat me as such the way I do you.

Now that I got that off my chest. Happy Monday Everyone.

Be Honest in Your Way as Long as Your Honest with Yourself.

Share this:

In life everything is a give and take or some form of trade off. If there is no equal give and take, or trade off then then an unbalance occurs. When an unbalance occurs, balance seeks order. It’s seeks order not to control but so that all things are fair.

I’m feeling a little off balanced. I have been feeling this way for a few months now. I realized why this week and I’m finally starting to do something about it. I haven’t focused on myself the way I should be. I’ve been focused on being there for people emotionally and physically that I have stopped being there for myself. I cannot fault or blame them for my feelings of unbalance simply because I allow it. I allow my need for always wanting to be there for others overshadow what I need to do for myself.

My goal now is to get balanced and focus on me.

Happy Saturday!

Are you balanced?!

Share this:

Share this:

So here’s an update of my progress.

So far I’m down 4lbs in 8 days. 😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I’m very proud of myself. I believed I’ve hit a plateau but I guess I did not. I’m glad to see progress no matter how small it is. So I am now 232. My goal is 210 by my birthday in 27 days. I may not reach the goal by my target 🎯 date but it will be reached no matter what. I won’t give up on myself.

I still have been eating late and that’s only because I haven’t been eating much during the day. But I have been working out, Meditating, and Practicing Mindfulness daily. It feels good to be consistent with things and make the changes I wish to make for myself.

Continue to wish me luck!!! I’ll be back with an update in a few day

Share this:

I’m back!!!!

My 21 Day challenge has to began again because I slacked off big time due to Justin being sick. His sickness wasn’t in the cards and I was not prepared for it.

Justin was first diagnosed with Pharyngitis last Tuesday. He still wasn’t feeling well after a few days of rest, he was running a fever barely moving, blowing his nose with tissues everywhere and let me not forget the coughing all over the house. I’m not sick after all of that. Thank God! But he’s still sick and I had to take him to Urgent Care because he couldn’t control his cough which was effecting his breathing.

He was looking and feeling horrible

It was very scary for the both of us. They diagnosed him with having an upper respiratory infection. He’s doing a lot better now, that’s he’s taking the proper medication. So with all of this stress my 21 Days fell to the waste side.

I ate late, forgot to workout, meditation happened later in the day but the plus side out of all of this I did lose 3lbs so far. I’m not sure if should actually start over being that I lost weight. I’m thinking I should because I didn’t make the behavior changes I was suppose to.

Let me know what you guys think! Should today be Day 5 or Day 1.

Share this: